Troubling statistics like this have prompted the group ­which is pushing for an end to violence against women and their children ­to launch a new campaign with the message: “You can’t undo violence”. 

The group’s research revealed many young people hold “disturbing” gender attitudes that support violence against women, as a third of people aged 12 to 24 do not think exerting control over someone is a form of violence.  One in four thought it was “pretty normal” for a guy to pressure a girl into sex.

Our Watch ambassador and former AFL star Luke Ablett said it was crucial to redefine masculinity and call out sexist behaviour or jokes that diminish or belittle. 

Lisa O’Reilly, a member of Our Watch’s digital youth committee, said social stereotypes about girls and boys could foster inequality in relationships. The 19­-year-­old said couples needed to respect each other and communicate honestly about their relationships. 

“We need to break down those barriers, so hopefully it won’t be a norm in the future,” Lisa said. 

She said she experienced differences in the way she and her brother were treated ­ while he was allowed to go out, she was expected to do more cooking and cleaning. 

In her relationship, she said some of her boyfriend’s questions ­like asking her to dress a certain way ­did cross the line in terms of respect. 

Fairfax Media has combined with Our Watch to End the Cycle of violence. 

If you or someone you know is experiencing violence or sexual assault, phone 1800RESPECT or 1800 737 732.